Letter to a non meditator friend III

Constantly making decisions, we constantly face elimination. Should I eat this, and drop this? Should I listen to this song, this person, this idea? It is all a matter of attaching significance.

Kind of worthwhile to understand this mechanism of significance. Where you place your significance would not come to you automatically, if it does then there is no gap between what you want to do and what you are doing right now, your wishes are your reality, you will and you are able to make the changes easily, without resistance from inside.

How to discover significance in our lives?

Significance is more a matter of creation. Look how you are 'making' your choices. You might be living in a world of ideas but your choices are a good reflection of how much the unconscious is operating its hold. You might believe in good food, see if you grab a tea knowing full well the milk might be adulterated. These operant reflexes, as I call them, will show you, help you discover your significance status by scratching some deeper layers. If you are not exercising when you can and no disability hinders you, you have not attached significance. It is a blessing time is a limitation, you can look through your actions during the day (or month) and come to your larger and inner significance barometer because this limitation sets prorities higher, decides what you actually did.

Start making changes from here.

What kind of changes?

Well, again ironically we know the larger things in this case but miss out the last details and that is where all the action happens. You are reading this mail and still wondering why are you not doing the work you had currently planned ... you are doing something that is ruining your larger plan in a small way.
Observe carefully, these larger changes reside in every moment. Small things, but immediate things. Sometimes implementing is not possible--you can not leave the job right away to start implementing changes, even if you can and will do it in future, you cant change everything suddenly to become the ideal person. Come on, lets accept that :) Now these gaps where we fail to implement are places that rot first. So, if you decided to exercise tomorrow, you made this choice thinking I would perhaps buy breakfast and miss reading the paper if I have to but I will exercise. If you dont then you stock some guilt. You become like a trader, first making a trade between exercise and buying breakfast and then between exercise and an opinion on You.
You know, you stop this trade. Become very clean with yourself. If you plan to wake up for exercise, let that come without trading with something else. Bring it as an intention, strong intention and you see you will get up ... things get easier, not difficult or judgemental--do not let the rot come in, just go on constructing.

In a larger context, do not let a failure in the past, a guilt, or a success affect your intentions or affect the significance you attach to something. No failed relationship should come in form of affecting your underlying actions out of habit. I know a girl who does not wear short sleeves because her ex didnt like them. Let there be no 'carry overs'. Once you do this you will find yourself dropping a lot of things, an old song that haunts you will probably lose its strength, will empty some space in your mind. You would be cleaning a cupboard and stacking fresh significance.

Lv

Letter to a non meditator friend II

Good Morning Gracious



Find time to look at the sky, take a walk.

Mind will wander thinking what to do ...

Bring you mind back and embrace the situation. A lot changes with how we deal with the situation. Not in actions but in perspectives, we can take away all the power a situation may have on our minds just by turning our thoughts.

Think of how things happened to us, we are made to do things that have been unpleasant to us. So much is out of control, for a while let go of the idea of what You did, see how it all happened, how it slipped even as we tried our best to save what we held dear.

And then embrace the situation, we already are deep in it, stop struggling for a while, breathe easy and take a walk.

Sending you love