Saturday, October 26, 2024

The Power of Truth in Our Work and Life: Aligning Purpose with Action


 It’s easy to fall into patterns where we act based on what we think others expect from us or what we fear could go wrong. But what if we took a different approach—one grounded in truth? Truth, in this case, is not just about honesty, but also about being clear on our purpose, our role, and the real needs of the situation.

Truth Over Ego: The Real Source of Power

We’ve all been there. You're in a meeting, and you find yourself thinking, "I need to say something impressive, or they’ll think I’m not pulling my weight." This kind of thinking stems from a place of ego—an underlying fear that you won’t be valued unless you stand out. But the truth of the situation often has very little to do with this noise. It’s about what the project requires and how you can contribute effectively.

When you focus on the truth of the work at hand, you stop asking, "How can I look good?" and start asking, "What does this situation need right now?" Aristotle said, “Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” And in this case, knowing what you’re really here to do is key. It’s not about competing; it’s about aligning your actions with the real goals.

From Fear to Purpose: A Shift in Perspective

Psychology teaches us that fear often triggers a "fight or flight" response, clouding our ability to think clearly. Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) identifies this as "catastrophizing"—a tendency to imagine the worst-case scenario. Whether it’s fear of not being good enough or fear of losing your job, these fears distort your judgment and push you to act reactively.

But when you strip away those layers of anxiety and look at the situation truthfully, you start to see it for what it really is. What are you really afraid of? Is the fear based on actual facts or imagined outcomes? By focusing on what is instead of what might be, you bring yourself back to the present moment, which is where real progress happens.

"Fear runs; truth walks steady.
The mind that’s clear is always ready."

When you operate from a place of truth, fear loses its grip. Your motivation shifts from fear of failure to the purpose of contributing meaningfully. This is where the real strength lies—both in life and in work.

The Nourishing Nature of Truth: Sustainable Success

Truth has this fascinating quality—it nourishes. When you operate with truth, your mind and heart are aligned with something deeper than just the surface-level noise of competition or fear. Neuroscientists talk about the “dopamine reward system,” where short-term wins give us bursts of satisfaction. But those bursts are fleeting. What gives us lasting fulfillment is when we feel that our actions are aligned with something greater—whether that’s a sense of purpose, integrity, or connection.

Elon Musk once said, “I think it’s possible for ordinary people to choose to be extraordinary.” What makes people extraordinary isn’t that they try to impress others or win through competition; it’s that they see the bigger picture and stay true to their goals.

In the long run, staying with the truth in your work not only leads to better outcomes but also creates a sense of inner peace. It’s like building on solid ground instead of constantly trying to keep up appearances or fend off imagined threats. The work you do becomes more than just about success—it becomes a means of living out your values.

"Truth is a river that flows in peace;
It quenches the thirst that never ceased."

Conclusion: Success as a Means to Truth, Not the End

In a high-stakes environment, success often feels like the ultimate goal. But success is not an end in itself—it’s a means of understanding who we are and how we function in different situations. When you commit to operating from a place of truth—where your actions are grounded in clarity, purpose, and honesty—you not only achieve better results, but you also discover a deeper, more sustainable sense of fulfillment.

By staying connected to the truth, you rise above the temporary fears, competition, and external pressures. Your mind is not cluttered with noise, but clear, and your actions reflect that clarity. As you navigate the complexities of work, remember: truth is not just a strategy—it’s the foundation of real, meaningful success.

"Let truth be your guide, fear your release;
In every action, may you find peace."

Why I didn't marry or why it didn't happen, and my thoughts on marriage

Marriage may not happen for various reasons. Some of these may be within your control, while others may not. For instance, I was searching for someone who shared my commitment to meditation, yet I never found a match. Meditation for me was a path that led to embracing integrity. It lead me to sustainability—living without plastics, reducing needs and waste, not eating after 12 noon, giving up non-vegetarian food, and striving for truthfulness in all areas, even at work. This journey meant leaving jobs and enduring years of financial hardship.

Now, at 42, I work for Google, but I prioritized ethics and integrity over career advancement or personal gain. So, it took a lot longer to reach here. It took time to align my life fully with integrity, as I gradually learned that genuine, honest work is what truly brings lasting success. I wasn't aligned with integrity deep down and it was a constant internal war and it sapped a lot of energy, for years and decades. 

To find someone ethical and successful, applying teaching successfully in daily life was truly difficult. In my years of struggle internally and externally I lived alone, was broke, introverted, spending most of my time meditating so there was very little social interaction and means of finding someone to marry or get a proposal. 

Basically, my logic was if I don't find someone with the same thirst for truth, I won't share my time and energy. Also, I had a lot of stuff I was working through. 

Even though I end up alone, I place very high value in marriage. Find a noble friend to learn and lean on and also to raise family and live a good, happy life full of love. Uprooting desire is a long path and it is good to find space in a committed relationship. You can agree to be alone in a relationship. 

In my case I had to go through extreme difficulties of loneliness, but the path is the same, uprooting desire by watching sensations that come up. Being alone, the work just got intensified. Path is the same, more or less. 

When you are coming closer to jhanas, it is somewhat important to be 'alone'. For some people, a long vipassana course gives enough time to do that. Some need longer time. I took ten years and still just beginning to understand the periphery of first jhana, some helping factors. Ten years of relentless single minded effort.